Jerramy Fine, author of Someday My Prince Will Come: Confessions of a Wannabe Princess and the creator of Princess Prep, a royal-inspired luxury summer camp for girls, is an American-born self-confessed Royalist for the British Royal Family. Spending the majority of her teenage and early adult life in London, chasing a dream to marry a Royal British heir, Fine’s memoirs are both hilarious and at times, heart-wrenching. Following Regal’s recent book review, which you can read here, I wanted to explore her motivations and beliefs further.
What was your motivation for publishing your memoirs?
I knew I had a story to tell. More than that, I knew my story had an important message about the power of dreams. If my book inspired even one girl from a small town to ignore her critics and follow her heart, then telling my life story to world has been worth it!
What was your most successful method of research-gathering for material?
My own life! Very little research was required for this book. It all came directly from memories and my super-human knowledge of all things royal and English.
Did the book allow you to see your young adult life differently to how you remembered it at the time?
The book ended when I was 25. I wrote the book when I was 26. I got a publishing deal when I was 27. I’m now 37! While I was writing the book, the voice was still very much my young twenty-something self and all the emotional events I described were still very real to me since they hadn’t happened that long ago. I’m a grown up now (or at least pretending to be) and my voice is more mature, but the fairytale heart at the core of it remains unchanged.
Have you gone to any other psychic readings since the one you mentioned in your book? If so, were they as accurate?
I never returned to Estella again. (Once was enough!) Although I love the experience of psychic readings, as time went on I found them to be highly addicting and (depending on the psychic) not always helpful. Its fun and often comforting to get other perspectives (believe me, I’m a slave to horoscopes), but I have to consciously remind myself that I am in complete control of my destiny.
Do you think perpetuating the femininity shown by the Royal Family, and the etiquette you studied when younger is empowering to young women?
Absolutely. It’s funny you ask that, as it’s actually the subject of my next book, titled: In Defense of the Princess: Why Royal Women (And Those Who Love Them) Are More Progressive Than You Think. Whether it’s a Disney Princess, a fairy-tale princess, a Windsor Princess, your daughter’s make-believe princess or your own inner princess– all are worthy and all need defending. In my book, the definition of a princess is simple: She is a queen in the making. A girl with a vision and purpose higher than her own. A girl who understands that being born female is itself a royal power.
A true princess is about treating everyone with kindness and generosity, and believing in yourself and your dreams. It’s about being noble, loyal and true; creating your own kingdom; creating your own life and treating everything on this planet as you would want to be treated. Being a true princess is about standing up for what you believe in and protecting those that can’t protect themselves. And finally, while a true princess understands that you can risk your heart if you meet someone worthy, ultimately the one person who’s going to rescue you – is yourself.
If more of the grown women I know felt allowed to embody the true power of the princess archetype during their childhood, much would be different. They might stop dating such losers. They might have the courage to ask for a raise. They might aim for goals that are worthy of them. They might stop worrying so much about the voices of others and start listening to the voice within. They might seek their place in the bigger picture and ask themselves how they might empower others to do the same. Most importantly? They might stop thinking that a mediocre life is enough.
Regardless of age, education, nationality, socioeconomic background, or what commercialism, media and folklore we may or may not be exposed to, the princess dream is here to stay. Most women claim that they have “grown out of” their princess phase. But nearly two billion people (a third of the planet!) watched Catherine Middleton walk down the aisle of Westminster Abbey and marry a prince. I think it’s quite clear that the world is aching to reconnect with the princess archetype!
Our little girls are further proof of this. But when our daughters dress in their princess regalia, they are not attempting to be sexual objects or resigning themselves to domestic passivity. Rather they are unconsciously asserting an ancient feminine force. They know that when you access your inner princess, you access your highest self.
The idea of an empowered princess is easy to ridicule because society dismisses anything feminine as weak or second best. But we must stop this knee-jerk tendency to demean anything feminine – and that includes princesses.
I believe that feminine values are destined to become the modus operandi of the twenty-first century. And in this context, the idea of princesshood is not regressive; it’s a breakthrough. Because it will actually be the most innovative among us who will break away from traditional expectations to become more princess-like on all fronts. Our once upon a time is now. Forever may we reign.
Someday My Prince Will Come: True Confessions of a Wannabe Princess is available to buy on Amazon:http://www.amazon.co.uk/Someday-Prince-Will-Come-Adventures/dp/1592404332/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1411391164&sr=8-1&keywords=someday+my+prince+will+come+jerramy+fine